Wednesday, 4 February 2015

Getting to know yourself better : SEL

Bench-
mark
Descriptors for “Exceeding” (Upper Sec)
Gist
1
Understands one’s strengths and weaknesses. Takes steps to build up strengths and works on weaknesses.
Self-awareness
2
Makes use of one’s talents, skills and interests to make good choices in life that have positive impact on others.
Personal strengths
3
Reflects on the important issues of life and recognises the impact on self.
Self-reflection
4
Sees stress in positive light. Assesses useful and relevant strategies for different types of stress. Shares and exchanges strategies with others on managing stress.
Coping with stress
5
Behaves in a socially acceptable manner.
Self-control
6
Demonstrates a passion for learning in most areas.
Learning
7
Moves beyond the immediate community (outside class, CCA or even school) in terms of valuing and working with diversity.
Working with different people

  
8
Impacts on the team positively by harnessing their needs and strengths so as to influence their behaviour towards a common goal.
Teamwork
9
Engages others positively in reducing tension and changes in relationships and applies strategies to cope with these.
Communication
10
Guides parties to reach an amiable solution.
Conflict management
11
Take steps to work on the changes in relationships.
Positive relationships: family & friends
12
Articulates and explains the issues of cultural diversity and justice. Makes informed decisions when functioning in different cultural settings, bearing in mind our own cultural biases and assumptions.
Cultural diversity
13
Does right even on one’s own self accord without any rewards or reminders.
Responsible decision making
14
Is reflective and receptive to others’ opinions in making changes and improvements
Response to feedback


Dear 4Ers,
               Please select one of the 14 benchmarks from the SEL assessment list you would like to focus on this year. Do elaborate the rationale of why you choose this benchmark and how you can improve on this benchmark.

Thank you.




26 comments:

  1. coping with stress

    to me, year 4 is a stressful year since we have to cope with so many different subjects. in addition to getting academically good grades, i am involved in this year's syf competition. having cca four times a week while trying hard to cope with my studies aren't easy. thus i hope that i will be motivated by the pressure given to me by my teachers, dance instructors and myself so as to push myself harder in order to balance out between cca and studies.

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    1. Hi Heng yun,
      Which benchmark are you referring to ? Perhaps you can say why this is the important benchmark that you want to focus on.

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  2. Benchmark 4 : Coping with stress
    Year 4 life will be stressful for all of us, thus I want to learn how to cope with stress well. Based on past year experiences, when ever I have extra commitments (competition trainings etc), I will tend to stress myself out a lot and panic over random unnecessary things. I would like to be able to cope with stress better by managing my time well and setting datelines for myself. I want to change stress into something positive which will help me in my academics.

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  3. For this year, I would like to work on both 9 and 10. The reason i chose two instead of one is that both of these aspects are linked together in some way. If I do not engage others positively in reducing tension, conflicts will arise that I will have to resolve. Conflicts happen often in my life, especially in my CCA and class when we have very different opinions on what needs to be done. I hope to be able to either be able to reduce tension before conflict arises, or guide both parties to an amicable outcome whereby both parties are satisfied with the outcome. Usually, when conflict arises, I take a stand and join in the argument. I hope that in this year I can sense when a conflict is arising, and stop it before It happens or I take a neutral stand, and help resolve the conflict. I can improve by taking a firm stand, and perhaps not being so direct with my words, as it my hurt the other party.

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  4. Benchmark 7 - working with different people
    Rationale: I feel that the ability to work with a diversity of people is an important skill that one has to be equipped with in order to survive well in the future in society. By coming out of my comfort zone to interact and work with new and different types of people, I will also be able to have a more complete view of how society is like. This will also help me learn to appreciate efforts put in by others to organise events for the community as a whole as I will be able to go through the same process as them and learn about the difficulties and challenges they have to overcome.

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  5. Benchmark 7: I would like to move beyond the immediate community (outside class, CCA or even school) in terms of valuing and working with diversity. This is because I seldom work with others as I usually prefer to work alone. However, it is necessary for one to be equipped with this skill when one enters the workforce. Hence, I feel that it is still necessary that I develop the skill to learn how to work with different people, especially within the class and the community. Being able to maintain a good social relationship with others is essential in our daily lives. Hence, I would like to improve on this area by trying to work with people around me.

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  6. Benchmark 4
    I hope that I can understand more about the universe around me and the nature of life as that is how I can and will live my life down the long run

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    1. As the nature of life and the universe guides the universe and humans from the big bang to the eventual heat death of the universe. Thus, understanding this nature will guide us not in this micro scale of a human's life but also where the universe is going and gives us perspective on how widespread and important our decisions are

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  7. Benchmark 4
    I hope to be able to focus on the 4th benchmark on stress management. This is because in year 4, there are many commitments and tests. As the year passes by, the level of difficulty would also increase. In year 5&6, it would become worse, Hence I think it is important to work on stress management; to learn how to cope with stress during the hectic period of studies. When one is overwhelmed with too much stress, one would be unable to perform well in studies and would have frequent mind blocks during exams. Thus, I hope to be able to focus on stress management in this year to have more effective learning

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  8. Benchmark 4
    Year 4 is really going to be a busy year for us to consolidate and strengthen. We must be prepared for our even more stressful year 5 and 6. Things we are learning are getting more and more difficult, we probably may face some problems like too much stress or not enough time. Hence we need to help each other to deal with our stress. I hope I will be able to adapt to the senior high school life.

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  9. Benchmark 2

    For this year, I would like to focus on my personal strength. This is because that I think I have not yet made good use of my talents and advantages comparing to others in not h academic and non academic areas. In academic areas, I think that my thinking is faster than most of the people in mathematics areas. However, I had not been using my talent well and did not study hard enough for what I am actually good at. In non academic areas, I have a great advantage comparing to others in sports, which is my height. But I have not been using my height well in my CCA since I did not train as hard as I could. Hence, I think I should train harder and use my strength well while finding some of my other strength throughout the entire year and try to develop them.

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  10. For this year, I would like to focus on responding well to feed backs as I feel that this is very important. We often do not see our own weaknesses. Only when constructive feedback is given by others would we know our own areas for improvement. However, even when feed back is given at times, I tend to ignore them. I would like to make it a point this year to accept and thank those who have given me feedback. After that, I will then think whether the suggestion given is useful or not. If it is, I will try to change and improve myself.

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  11. 9 communication

    I chose this as I always faced this problem as I will always end up with a conflict with my friends when I fail to get my message to them or when they fail to understand what I mean. I hope I can learn to express myself more precisely to avoid these by later parts of the year.

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  12. I would like to work on 2 benchmarks for this year.The two benchmarks are number 4 which is coping with stress and number 8 which is about teamwork.This is already my 4th year in RV and I know the workload will be even more so I hope that I will be able to cope with all the stress so that I can have a balance between work and play.As for teamwork,I feel that I have done my part in group projects however I feel that I can do more by sharing more ideas that I have and impact on the team positively so that the team can achieve the goal be it for class work or for planning of CCA activities.

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  13. One thing I would like to focus on this year is communication.
    As one of the seniors in charge of my CCA, I feel that in order to manage the CCA well and get things done, there must be communication present not only for myself but for my batch mates as well. If there is a miscommunication, there would be conflicts between members and this would result in a lot of negative feelings within the group. Hence, I hope that among us, we will be able to talk to each other and tell each other what we feel. By sharing our thoughts, we will then be able to reduce conflict and get things done.
    By having proper communication skills, not only would there be less misunderstandings between peers, I will also be able to have a better social relationship with other people. Only by sharing our personal thoughts and ideas with others are we able to form friendships and relationships with them. I would then be able to widen up my social circle and make more friends, and who knows, maybe I'll be able to meet someone who knows me better than I do.

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  14. I would like to better understand my strengths and weaknesses. taking steps to build up strengths and work on weaknesses is all about self-awareness. It is essential to understand myself so that i will know where i stand and push myself to further limits. This is important as only by enhancing my strengths and improving on your weaknesses can i improve and achieve my goals.

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  15. Benchmark: 8
    I would like to improve on my teamwork skills and be able to cooperate with other people in group work so as to achieve common goals efficiently and effectively. Since young, I have not been practising teamwork very well and always 'tank' reports and groupworks. I have a problem of not being able to trust my groupmates and think that different ideas will result in chaos and the work will not be done very well. Hence, I have the mindset that the work will be done effectively if 1 person is doing most of the job. However, as the years goes on I reealised that I have to depend on my peers as the workload will be too much to handle single-handedly. Hence, I would like to work on my teamwork capability.

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  16. Conflict management.
    For this year, I would like to work on my conflict management. Lately, i realised that i have been getting into conflicts and such as with my parents, sibling, c/a mates and classmates. These conflicts often do not end well. What usually happens is that me and the other party will have conflicting views and neither parties refuses to give in. This results in the conflicts that has no good ending. This is why, i would like to work on conflict management, to be able to resolve such conflicts in a peaceful way, to find solutions without having to first argue over the topic. If i am able to achieve this, i will be able to work with people better. This will also help me in benchmark 7, which is working with different people.

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  17. benchmark 9 - communication

    I would like to improve on my communication skills with others. Communication is a very important aspect of interacting with other people. If we are able to communicate well with others, we would be able to work well with others. To get our opinions and ideas across more effectively such that people would actually listen and take note of your opinions, communication is the key. For instance, I have to work together with my batch mates in my CCA to make the CCA a better one for future batches. Therefore, I would like to work on my communication skills to be able to express myself more effectively.

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  18. Benchmark 7 - working with different people
    I believe it is important to be able to work with different groups of people as this is definitely useful for us in the future. For instance, in future when we enter the work force, we might be constantly facing strangers whom we do not know at all and we have to work with them achieve something. Personally i feel that i prefer to work with people whom i am comfortable with such as my friends. I think i need to learn to work with more different people and to be able to interact well with them.

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  19. One area which i want to focus on to improve myself is to move beyond the immediate community, such as outside class, CCA and school, in terms of valuing and working with diversity. This is because I realised I have not been working outside of my immediate community; which are the communities that I do not frequently have in contact with. Thus I will like to step out of my comfort zone and sign up for VIAs, so that I can get to work with different people from differemt background. This will enable me to value others and understand others better.

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  20. The benchmark that i would like to focus most is number 9: communication. No matter in school, workforce or society, communication is one of the most important and most commonly used skill. Also, having good communication skills helps in the other benchmarks such as teamwork, working with other people and conflict management. Personally, i think i still lack the skills and confidence to talk to other people, especially those who i just meet. Therefore, i want to focus on this aspect so that i can be more sociable and have better social relationships. Furthermore, i am in senior high and there are more and more things that i need to take charge of such as CCA and other commitments. In order for things to run smoothly, i think that i still need to train my communication skills so that i can work well with my peers and seniors.

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  21. Learning
    - I hope to develop a stronger passion for learning and have an interest in gaining knowledge. Instead of blindly memorising facts, or studying for the sake of studying, i hope i can enjoy and really want to study and learn new things. I believe that if i have an interest in studying, i will be more focused and attentive in class and won't fall asleep as often. I feel that this will also help me to not be so stressed out and enjoy studying.

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  22. Benchmark 4: Coping with Stress

    I would like to work on this benchmark because this is a very hectic year. It is very important for us to be able to cope and manage the stress that we are going to face. Besides, it is also the transition period for us to the senior high. Many stuff will become harder to fulfill, hence by coping with stress, we would be able to better to do things. Moreover, we will also be preparing for the respective important examinations over the next few years. I can take the chance to learn how to cope with stress so that I would be able to manage them in the future.

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  23. Benchmark 1: Self-awareness
    I want to have more self-awareness as I need to identify my strengths and stretch my potential. As for my weaknesses, I would like to improve in that aspect and work on it consistently. One of my weaknesses is public speaking and I hope that I will be more confident when I'm spreaking or presenting to people. I hope that through constant practicing, I will be able to gain more confidence and experience and hence, improve myself.

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  24. Benchmark 6: Learning
    I strongly believe that the reason for education is to educate students so that we can learn new things. It is not just about memorising pieces of information, but instead we should know that education is for our own good, so we should treasure the chance to learn and grow as well. I need to remember that we should appreciate our current education system as it teaches not just random contents, but instead it is going to help us in gaining knowledge. Some of the things we learn now will also be useful in the future, hence I want to be passionate about learning in most areas.

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