What did we do yesterday during CCE lesson
We had an activity which requires us to form pairs. Some of the pairs have to be in opposite genders while some consisted of those of the same gender. Each pair was given 2 strings to tie each of their hands and legs together and were required to walk a certain distance. The mission given was to fold a paper plane using either the tied hands or the untied hands. Then the pairs were required to walk back to the original position. The last four pairs have to do a forfeit. 2 of the guys in the last four pairs have to be blind folded while catching the other 2 guys who were not blind folded under the guidance of their girl partners. In the end, those being blind folded successfully caught those not being blind folded. At the end of the game, we had a sharing session to allow us to think about the meaning behind the game we played.
What is Marriage?
Marriage requires both parties to be willing to commit and to trust each other. Marriage requires love, patience and forgiveness. It is a lifelong thing where one can find comfort whenever they are feeling low. Lifelong partners have to trust each other and be true to them. Both the husband and the wife are willing to share their joy, sadness and secrets with each other without feeling awkward or being exposed. During marriage, it is unavoidable to have conflicts. However, one have to accept their mistake and move on. When something goes wrong, both parties do not put the blame on each other. They will not focus on who's right and who's wrong. Instead, both of them will help to solve the problem and forgive one another. They will put in all their effort to treasure and appreciate the time spent with each other so that their love will last long. Partners would grow old together and one should not abandon their partners when they grow old. Besides, they should also overcome difficulties together. One has to think clearly whether the other party is the right person whom they are willing to share their life with forever, to be able to understand what they are going through and put themselves into their pain. From the games, we had a short experience of what 'marriage' would be. We had to trust our partner and listen to them when it is necessary to. We also had to be cooperating with each other in order to achieve our common goal.
Link for CCE video " I wanna grow old with you " - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Y4_BivnrwM
Marriage, to me, is simply a lifelong commitment from one to the other. Both of them will have to be willing to spend the rest of their lives together and weathering through thick and thin. Both parties would have to be willing to put trust in the other party no matter what happens. The couple would also have to be able to seek comfort from each other and the other party would have to be willing to provide comfort. Marriage is not something that one simply jumps in and marry someone he just met days ago. It is a choice that have to be considered carefully as this choice usually is a lifelong one, and cannot be changed. This CCE lesson only showed us a short snippet of marriage. We had to trust in our partner, and reciprocate to their trust in me by cooperating with her.
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I think that marriage is a commitment between 2 people, despite their differences in beliefs and natural attributes, that love and wish to stay with each other. It's like a bond between 2 people and that they commit to each others future lives. When a marriage occurs, both parties are not only marrying their physical partners, but also metaphorically marrying each other's families, dreams, beliefs, ideals and everything the person affiliates with and stand for. It's when 2 people decide to face problems and experience life together.
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Hi Nobel,
DeleteThough your post is not lengthy, it gets me thinking about your metaphor "also metaphorically marrying each other's families, dreams, beliefs, ideals and everything the person affiliates with and stand for."
Do you think you or most people able to stand what you mention?
Marriage is a life long thing that shouldn't be taken easily. Marriage cannot function well with only one person's effort, it's a two person thing. Nobody will expect a marriage to work if only one party is putting in the effort to maintain the marriage. Trust is important in marriage, without trust, the marriage will not be a successful one. Couples should trust their wives/husbands and not let those trival things ruin their relationship. Nobody is perfect and there will always be mistakes made by either party, but the key to a successful marriage is whether the opposite party is willing to forgive and forget, treating it as a learning experiences. Fights are unavoidable in marriages, couples will forge a stronger bond as a result.
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ReplyDeleteAfter this CCE lesson, I have gained a deeper understanding of what exactly the word marriage means. Personally, I feel that the marriage is a role that both parties have a part to managed it well. Both parties have to work together towards a common goal that they have. Just like the activity that we did by tying legs and hands together. Both of them have to work together and compromise each other's weaknesses so that there can be a progress in achieving the common goal. When faced with obstacles, both have to work together to over come it. It is the trust that both parties have put in for one another that makes up marriage. It is the idea of supporting one another when either one is in need.
Marriage is the commitment of both parties. They are to be able to accept both virtues and flaws of their lifelong partners. Both of them are to contribute to this lifelong relationship. There might be different opinions or different beliefs in them but all they have to do is to put in efforts and reach consensuses. Moreover, trust is the key of a successful marriage, there will be difficulties, or to say is the inappropriate things done by either party, to be overcome and trust is the most important thing that will help. It is not only for seeking a physical partner but also a lifelong soulmate.
ReplyDeleteWhether financially, emotionally or in any other way, what most people seek by marrying is stability. Being able to settle down with a family is most probably what most people would want. With that stability comes the trust, faith and happiness. It is impossible for a marriage to work out without trust and listening to what the other person has to say. If one person does everything, it's not going to work out.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is a bond that connects two people together and both parties would have to put in a constant amount of effort for it to work out. Just like what was shown in the video, true married couples spend happy times and unhappy times together as well as share the hard work together with each other. At the end of the video, it showed a nobel marriage as the wife asked the husband to start off a new adventure when she was sick in the hospital. This is the amount of consideration a couple should have in order to maintain a blissful marriage. Married couples should be thinking of one other's interest at all times and not only their selfish interest. This is what true marriage should be like
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DeleteDid you "capture" the incident from the video why the couple are sad? I didn't managed to see what was happening after seeing it for the first few time.
I personally felt the video has alot of learning moments that we can see in relation to marriage. Did we, 4Ers capture the moments?
From the video, we can tell that marriage is something that requires a lot of time and commitment by both parties. One have to encourage the other when either of them feels down while at the same time sharing their joys whenever they are happy. Besides, they will also have to work hard towards their unison goal or target.
ReplyDeleteMarriage takes time, commitment, responsibility, loyalty and trust. Both parties must have the mental decision to commit to the other person and the marriage for life and they have to trust the other party to be there when they are down. It also takes one much responsibility in whatever they do as it will affect the other party. To me, marriage is also a process to find someone to grow old with, someone to be there for you when you need comfort, someone that knows you well, knows your flaws, but still accepts you for who you are.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is a commitment, your partner will be with you forever until you die. Be it happy times or sad times, he will accompany you through this journey and experience the same things as you do. It is as though both of you merge as one body, with the same heart, mind and soul. Marriage is when partners show unconditional love towards each other, accepting each other despite their partner's flaws and weaknesses. It is when partners truly understand and forgive each other even when any one of them did anything wrong. It is the grace and love that keeps them together. It is also when you show sacrificial love towards each other, giving each other your time and effort, and not expecting any in return. It is also about trusting in each other, making him your refuge and leaning onto him when you're sad. He is just like your best friend. It is also someone whom you can pour all out to him, knowing that you're safe with him, and feeling a strong sense of security and protection. As if there is someone who is with you, beside you and behind you supporting your back, be it emotionally, mentally, or any other areas of your life. It is also when both partners have the same vision in mind, and work towards the same goal together. Because if they dont, they will walk on separate paths, with different aims and mindsets. It is like a string being pulled two way, they will have a tense relationship. All in all, marriage is a very magical thing, it is a promise that shall never be broken.
ReplyDeleteHi 4Ers,
ReplyDeletePlease do engage actively in the "conversation" on the blog. If you have posted on the blog, you do find yourself frequently doing the "backspace", this action is due to your mind constantly "restructuring" or "reflecting" on what you wanted to put up on the blog. This is part of nurturing your ability or even my ability to write and reflect upon the things you see and align your flow of thoughts into words.
I, myself, did not use blog that actively till last year and I am also at the learning stage like you guys. Always try to have an open mind to try something new and don't treat blog as a platform to submit work.
It can be used as an online space/platform for collaboration/discussion/sharing.
That will be all from me.
Hope our class blog will grow well.
P.S: do take pictures or share some happiness moment that happened in class to update Miss Tan and me through this blog.
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Maybe you can explore this as a platform for online discussion?
I honestly think that marriage is a really big part of one's life and it will indeed be a pity if we stay single in our life. After all it's only human for us to love somebody. However, I believe there will come a time when the romance develops into a commitment, into marriage. Since will probably be with our spouse for more than half if not two thirds of our life, it will indeed be the biggest milestone of our life. Hence, I feel strongly that finding the One is of inevitable importance. Marriage is a lifelong commitment that can only be sustained with unfailing love and unwavering trust for your partner. Also, both parties must put in effort and be extremely committed to each other for the marraige to be blissful
ReplyDeleteMarriage is about committing to the person that you are willing to spend your live with. It requires both parties to have a deep understanding of each other and be willing to go through everything together. When facing difficulties, both parties must work together to solve them. Marriage is also about knowing each other's flaws and accepting them. It is not just one person's responsibility; both of them have to do their part to support their marriage and keep it going. Hence, I think that marriage is a promise between two people who are willing to spend their lives with and go through and thin together.
ReplyDeleteFrom the video, marriage requires trust and commitment. When they were young, the wife and the husband promised each other that they will dedicate their lives to achieving the wife's dream of going on an adventure. They put in all their efforts for the rest of their lives to achieving the goals. Even though the wife could not live to see her dreams turn real, she still trusted that her husband would be able to do it for her.
ReplyDeleteI feel that marriage is about the bond that two people have as they are compatible.Both parties are willing to accept the other party's flaws.As a result,they bond even closer be it physically or mentally.Furthermore,both parties would encourage and help another through the many difficulties in life.With a life long companion,both parties would know that no matter what obstacles there are in life,there would always be someone who supports them and encourages them to give their best.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, marriage represents love and love is a very strong word. To me, love means putting the other party above yourself and it also means trust. In order for a marriage to work out, both parties must put in the effort to maintain the marriage. If only one person puts in the effort while the other one does nothing, the marriage is bound to fail. Marriage also means sticking by each other and supporting each other through thick and thin. Even when one fails, the other should not criticize or blame him/her but should instead help and support him/her instead. Both must understand each other and never leave each other no matter what challenges they face. Love does not necessarily mean the feeling of infatuation or having strong attraction and feelings for each other all the time. It means that both parties must give their all in sustaining the friendship and trust each other. It means both can be real and vulnerable to each other and know each other so well that they know what both are thinking about
ReplyDeleteI believe that marriage is one of the serious matters in life. For marriage to be successful, i think that the love towards each other is the most essential. With true love, one will be able accept the other half - whether it is the good or the bad, and tolerate with him/her. Marriage a long term thing. The amount of commitment before, during, and after marriage is great, and it is not easy to maintain it for at least half of the life time. However, with true love, the couple will be willing to commit towards each other and with this they will be able to stick with each other through the ups and downs for the rest of their lives - which is also important for a successful marriage. I know that in the current society, it is difficult for a marriage to succeed with love only, but without love, there would be no marriage to begin with.
ReplyDeleteI believe that marriage is a union between two individuals who come together and who share this certain connection. It requires both individuals to work together and commit to the relationship. A marriage would not work out if only one party is trying to keep the relationship going. It requires trust, faithfulness, support and compromise between the two individuals. Trust is that both parties have to have a firm belief in each other, that they would stay true to each other and trust that they are still committed in the relationship, and also be faithful. Whereas support and compromise is that when one party is feeling down or moody, the other would try to bring his or her mood up, by giving moral and emotional support. Of course, if one party is upset because of what the other has done or said, if it is better for them to compromise with one another, to give in, such that both parties will be happier in the future.
ReplyDeleteI think that marriage is a decision made by one, to choose a partner to continue the journey of life with. It is not something as simple as living together, there is a responsibility that one must have as a husband or a wife. An ideal person to choose should be someone one knows very well and whom one can forgive and put up with all the time. He or she must be someone one can accept as a whole, his or her social circle, his or her family, his or her habits and his or her flaws. It is impossible to have zero conflicts between 2 people therefore one should be prepared for facing such problems when one decides to marry someone. One should also be able to trust he or she, even in situations that one is the most vulnerable. He or she should be someone that one can understand, with a single gesture or facial expression and one knows what he or she is thinking. One should be prepared to support he or she constantly in the rest of his life. This decision should be made only after considering all these factors and types of situations, and they should only be married when they can do so.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, marriage is something that involves a lot of commitment and connection. Two people get together when they feel that they are emotionally connected. They are able to tolerate each other's flaws, and accept them. I believe both parties have to play their part to keep the relationship lasting. Even when there are arguments, both will try to understand each other and sometimes, even give in to the argument even if it is not their fault. This is because they treasure their relationship and are willing to compromise. In order for a marriage to last, both have to stay committed throughout, even when there are ups and downs. After all, they will spend their lives together and share everything including toilets and beds. Hence both parties can only be happy together if they can trust and support each other, and do their best to keep the relationship strong.
ReplyDeletemarriage is a word that seems to be so far away from us. it isnt something that we will think about right now at this moment. but i guess i can understand the meaning of marriage from my parents. and i once asked my mom before if there is still love between her and my dad. they have been together for so long, wont the love and the fire between them that led them walking together into marriage hood fade off and dies out. she told me this "surely there is love between us. but it is no longer only the kind of romance love you knows about. there are other types of love in this world: friendship love, family love. your dad and i have gradually move past romance love and are together more like family instead of just lovers."
ReplyDeleteas years go by, i gradually understand that for a marriage to be successful, having simply love between them is not enough. marriage consists of many things, but i believe comfort is the the most important thing of all. two parties should not be afraid to show each other their true self. only when they are comfortable with each other, they can share everything about themselves without feeling ashamed or embarrassed. and i believe that is very important. in a marriage, both parties should not hide secrets from each other and they should accept all their flaws so as to walk through the journey together.
of course love is important too, that is what causes them to marry each other. but one day the romance love they had will gradually transform to family love. and that love is unbreakable.
Marriage may have different meanings to different people but I feel that the main point about it is because of your lifelong love and trust towards the person, you want to grow old with them. You accept your spouse for who he is, albeit fully aware of his flaws. In times of difficulties, you must be able to compromise with him and eventually come to a common idea. When either of the couple is feeling down, you want to support him emotionally and physically, and rise through all adversities with them. You must also have trust in them, such that in times of despair, you will take any advice from them without any doubt. Your spouse is someone ideal to you, and different people see 'ideal' differently.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is a lifetime commitment to your partner. To have a long lasting and happy marriage, trust is needed. Sometimes, couples will have problems. Communication is important so that these problems can be resolved quickly. Nobody is perfect. Couples must know each other's flaws and accept them.
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